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Expect the Unexpected
By MaryAine Curtis, Transformation Coach &
Spiritual Psychology Coach
Are you able to see how your life has played a certain tune? Some parts are like the chorus of a song and everyone knows the chorus because it always gets repeated again in the song. The repetitive dance in a relationship begins unconsciously and then becomes a pattern or a rut. The longer you are in relationship the clearer the pattern becomes as you become conscious of the replay pattern or chorus. You may wonder whether it's healthy for you or not.
Within your bodies energy or auric field lies an blueprint of your life. It’s like a music box that holds tiny bumps or knotches which play a tune repetitively as the handle is turned. You can be certain that the music will always be the same. Life patterns are very similar.
At first patterns are unconscious and unexpected but we do them because our parents did them. Once you notice you’re in a pattern you can change it if you want to. Becoming aware of a usually uncomfortable pattern is when it becomes a conscious pattern and you can make changes that you expect. However, you only have the power to change yourself. You can adjust for the other person but you cannot change them.
The benefits of making changes depend on the type and personal investment that you have with yourself and the other person, be it spouse, child or boss for example. It can be mutually beneficial if you agree that changes need to be made. Compromise some, take small steps and try to agree about how you want to make proposed changes. Then you can agree to make them together.
Here are 3 simple questions to ponder.
1. What do you want in this relationship?
2. What or how much time are you willing to invest?
3. What are your expectations in this relationship?
This last question is the most important and will give you the most clarity. As you
answer this you'll gain a great insight into yourself and it’s especially helpful
to write down the answers.
Have fun discovering what you really want in relationships!